- What is pain body
- What is held within the pain body
- How to work with it
- Trust as important part of Dearmouring
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I agree, I need to work through layers and layers of my own pain body and transform it. I need to be able to go through the same trauma in order to hold space for my client. And I agree if there’s no trust the client will not empty his or her pain body.
I agree i must go thru my own layers of trauma and transform it.
eckhart tolle—the power of now—has instruction on the pain body
Can you suggest writings to learn about the pain body?
Hhm I don’t know any writings about the subject. My knowledge is from personal study and experience.
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how do you do that? when in a self-development, working on the own pain-body, and also working with clients. It is a lot, for me it can be. It also seems that clients that come to see me for a session have the package with them that I am working on for myself. It is interesting and I am open to learn from it. As a spaceholder I also feel vulnerable.
I hear you Erika. It is not possible to work on yourself and at same time work on clients with same issues.
And this is why dearmouring takes a long time to learn and get good at. It is not possible to hold space for things I have not worked thru in myself. And it would be very hard on myself and also irresponsible to my clients to work with them while I still did not transform and heal parts of myself that they are working on in my sessions. This is because I will not be able to hold space for them in that case. As you said I would feel vulnerable as a space holder. But if I feel vulnerable as a space holder I am not actually holding space for them. Do you get that? It is much better to refuse the clients that come with issues that I have not worked thru and to be honest with them and say “I am sorry but I am not deep enough to work with you on that”. And then I would go and receive a lot of dearmouring or healing myself to complete on those issues. And only then I will be ready to work with them. There is no shame in being honest with them and saying “sorry I need more training before I’m ready to work with you”.
I say it again, dearmouring requires high level of integrity and emotional/energetic maturity. It is not an easy job to learn. Because more them 85% of the job is space holding, only about 10-15% is actual technique, or knowledge of how to touch and where to touch. By far the most important knowledge is self knowledge and ability to look at your client calmly and say ” I know what you’re going thru. I went thru it myself. Trust me and relax. I know how to take you thru it and to the other side” But you can only say that with integrity if you actually did that work on yourself. And that takes time, a lot of effort, commitment and humbleness. That is why dearmouring is a hard job to get good at.
I hope this answers your question.
And dont let this answer stop you from learning and deepening yourself 🙂 I said this with aim of inspiring you to continue and get excellent at it 🙂
Big hug
Grasping the essence of the pain body is not easy for me. I was trolling the www and listening to eckard tolle about the pain body and literally just had to cry, just by listening to him through words, because all of the sudden I understood how a part within me(the pain body) was acting to my field.
Another question for me shows up while having a conversation with another practioner, whos working close in the same field, but it seems like with a different approach : do I want that the client or myself is experiencing the whole trauma/pain consciously again, would this not retraumatize someone? Or is it more
By staying present and feeling through it until it softens and acceptance follows?
Hi, good question.
Yes, if your client experiences the whole trauma or pain associated with it in the session that would re-traumatise them. So we don’t want that. What we do want is for our client to get in touch with that episode and to let it go. To make peace with it. To leave it behind and not carry with them all the time.
In order for that to happen often clients will experience a homeopathic dose of the original trauma or pain. That is a very small amount, just big enough to know they are on the right track so to speak. And if we keep the pressure around 3-4 as we showed you in the training, then client will be able to conduct the energy safely and will release it little by little.
Let me know if this is clear?